The idea of Chastity, or where one remains sexually pure, with some individuals who wish to remain pure for a large variety of reasons, is still widely practiced. Chastity, refers to the sexual behavior of a man or woman acceptable to the moral standards and guidelines of a culture, civilization, or religion. In the western world, the term has become closely associated (and is often used interchangeably) with sexual abstinence, especially before marriage. (Source)

It’s complete and utter bullshit. (Click here for an example of a sexually self-deprived person who designs contraptions to keep his penis from having any fun! 18+)

Abstinence is a self-proclaimed notion either by a group of people, or by one individual to “save themselves” for a partner until marriage – which forces a human being to deny their own biological needs, and causes a large amount of “guilt” and “sexual deviancy” which is forced underground to substitute their “moral standard” that individuals who profess “abstinence” as a lifestyle choice.

Masturbation is  safe, healthy, and some Doctors say can even help you prevent prostate cancer.  Who knew?  The issue is that one who proclaims self pleasure more often than with a partner can sometimes suffer from sexual dysfunction, because individuals who frequently stimulate themselves in ways that don’t simulate sex with a partner — for example, stroking very rapidly or with great pressure or friction — can develop retarded ejaculation. That’s a type of sexual dysfunction in which it is difficult or even impossible to climax during partnered sex. In other words, abstaining from sexual practices with a partner causes one to be dependent on masturbation, and so when a “abstinent” person does have sex with another consenting adult partner, they wind up with pre-mature ejaculation, impotence, or have to self-pleasure themselves to achieve orgasm leaving the partner feeling as if they are unable to be satisfactory in bed.

But wait, did you say that masturbation can help reduce the risk of prostate cancer?  Yes, because masturbation does – and will – help drain the prostate of cancer causing fluids that may otherwise (through abstinence) remain stagnant, resulting in a higher risk for prostate cancer.  (Source)  The fact is, that I know a few people who profess to not have sex until they are married, or who have taken vows of chastity – however, they become sexually active in other ways to “satisfy” the biological need to achieve orgasm.

In other words, maybe “good healthy” men – not boys as this weird ass photo shows – should practice keeping their hands under the covers, and getting off with a partner more often?  This brings me to my next amazing and Earth shattering commentary which is that HIV education is NOT proactive enough in schools, and while the subject about “HIV” positive people is still taboo in some people’s minds, and yes – it is manageable now, it is still something that people can be educated enough to not transmit or receive.  In LA, a contest ended today where they are making an official condom, asking for designs from artists all over, to create the cover for their condom wrapper.  The campaign is those sexually active folks so they will wrap it, and enjoy sexual activity – but is the message still too late at the demographic they are targeting?

Show Me Your Package is a campaign for “LA’s Next Sex Symbol” where graphic artists were asked to send in their designs, and the winner(s) would receive special prizes.  This is a good campaign, because it puts safer sex into the limelight, without the horrifically FAILED right wing conservative campaigns for “abstinence” rings and “no sex before marriage campaigns.”    The reason being is that however you spin it, once a relationship is made, most teenagers or young adults are going to experiment with sexual activity albeit oral, or “all the way” before marriage, so the idea of “chastity” needs to be rethought.

HIV/AIDS education needs to be taught int he public school system, and given to young adults so that they are armed with the knowledge, not the myths of HIV and how it is acquired.  I had a shocking conversation with a young lady the other day who didn’t know that HIV was still around, and she thought that “it was not in the USA anymore.”  Shocking statistics anyone?  Read this report which comes from our Kentucky Cabinet for Health Services — CLICK HERE TO READ THE REPORT (PDF).  I am not saying that HIV prevention efforts are not out there, but they are NOT present in your schools, because more and more parents I have discussed this with discover their young adult was sexually active, or thinking about sex, and their concern was pregnancy and not STD’s.  SCARY THOUGHT HUH?  HIV PREVENTION FROM CDC

What I am saying is that CHASTITY or ABSTINENCE - however you spin it, is not healthy.  It causes one to seek out companionship on the long term, and rush through the idealistic social idea of “what a perfect spouse should be” so that sexual activity can occur.  It bypasses, or speeds through the idea that sexual experimentation and growth through sexual expression is not healthy until the moral acceptance occurs.  The trend is very 3000+ years ago, and should not be a part of a society that is ever growing, changing, and is as diverse as ours in 2012.

Ultimately also, we must understand that sexual practices should be done with precautions, such as condoms.  Any form of sexual activity should be safe, and should leave you feeling good and not empty, guilty, or ashamed.  We should be teaching HIV prevention in schools, and providing functional real world solutions and scenarios to our children, so that they do not end up as a statistic.

Wrap It, Stick It, & Then Shoot it,
Jake A. Wheat